The electrical side of it can be daunting and it can be very easy to over think/over complicate things. I know because I’m guilty of it.
Something to think about is how you want it to look on the water. Personally I like my warship to look like it has a nice scale speed and realistic turning circle. So if it was me, I wouldn’t worry about having motors moving in opposite directions during a turn, as long as you have a good throw in each direction on your rudder you should be fine. From that you could run two of the four motors off one ESC and the other two motors off a second ESC connected with a Y lead to the channel in your receiver. (I think you’d be pushing even a 40amp esc if you were running all 4 motors off one ESC) So you’d have 4 motors, two ESCs and these could be run from one channel on your transmitter. Be careful if your ESCs have a built in BEC. You don’t want two BECs connected to your receiver. This can be sorted but you’ll just need to check the ESC instructions.
Motor wise, from my experience I’d suggest a 500 brushed motor. My warship which is about 5ft long has two 380 size motors and this gives a lovely scale speed at 1/2 throttle, but I have more should I need to get out of the way of anything. I believe your dreadnought is a similar length but wider. So I don’t think you’d need bigger than 500 motors, especially if you have 4 of them
I can’t answer about brushless because I don’t use them in boats.
Radio gear depends on your budget. Personally I like the Spektrum dx9. Plenty of channels and a lot of them are programmable. For example you can adjust your throttle, so if you have a lot of power at the top end of your throttle and your scale warship looks more like a speed boat crossing the pond you can adjust the throttle curve and give yourself only 50% at full throttle. Obviously there are many others out there to suit your budget and needs, but the more working features you want, the more channels you’ll want on your transmitter.
I hope that makes some sort of sense and helps a bit.